Welcome! Contribution from freelance writer Jennifer Hoole.
Be Prepared Parents, It Gets Much Tougher After They Turn 18
Almost 40% of adults age 18 to 34 live at home with their parents or with family members. This is a staggering number to say the least. In fact, it is a 75 year high. With this in mind, it is important to remind yourself that life after your child turns 18 doesn’t always get easier, in many cases it can be much more difficult. One issue that many parents have a tough time dealing with is still feeling worried and stressed out. Remember, this is your time to focus on yourself and rejuvenate after many years of raising children.
Common Misconceptions When You’re Child Turns 18
There are some preconceptions that many parents of adult children have a rough time letting go of. It will take a while, but eventually, you will get the hang of it.
Kids should listen to you. While in theory this would be nice, once they turn 18 it will happen less and less. They need to make their own mistakes and learn.
Children should call their parents. Yes, they should. However, you must remember that communication is a two way street. Call them as well. Be interested in their life, don’t just use a call to be critical.
- Freedom from worry. This is not typical at all. In fact, worry increases in many cases when your child gets older and more independent.
How To Deal With Anxiety About Your Grown Children
This is the most difficult part of being a parent to an adult child, especially if you are a single parent and dealing with this anxiety alone. Though you worried about your children when they were under your authority, you always knew that you could step in and save them if needed. When they are adults, it will not be that easy. The best way to deal with this persistent anxiety, is to learn to let go. Let them grow and learn on their own.
Will It Ever Go Away?
It will more than likely not go away. However, you can learn to decrease the effects of your worry. Life will throw many things at your children that you could have never predicted. Your best defense is trusting that you raised them to be resilient and persistent. Outside of that, you are helpless. Do not fight this helplessness, accept it, and it will make parenting your adult children much easier.